Mom advice. We all get it. If you’re a mom, like me, you likely give it freely. And, why not? We’ve lived and we’ve experienced things (both good and bad) and we want to impart that knowledge to those we love. Makes sense. What’s funny when you think about it is how it can also lend itself to the business world. With that said, here’s the advice I’ve passed on to my sons with the hope that you can take something away, even if only a little nugget.
‘No’ is not really ‘no’.
If you ask a question and receive a solid ‘no’, it’s easy to make assumptions that ‘it is what it is’ and move on. However, if you really want to make something happen, get creative. That can mean a few things;
- Ask someone else.
- Ask again with a more creative flair.
- Ask in a way that will make that person reconsider.
- Wait, and then ask again.
Until it’s in writing, it’s not real.
I refer to this phenomenon as ‘happy ears’. People we deal with on many levels may make promises or say things to get our hopes up. However, until you get something solid on paper, never assume that anything is actually ‘going’ to happen. Sometimes people tell you that they will make something happen for you or that they’ll move forward in one direction or another. Rule of thumb: if it’s not in writing, it’s not real.
You were given 2 ears and 1 mouth for a reason. Listen.
The only time you’re learning, is when you listen. Everyone you meet has something to share. It could be an experience, a lesson learned or maybe even a contact. If you’re too busy talking about you and your life, you’re not only losing the opportunity to build a relationship, you’re not learning anything you don’t already know. Of course, you should always engage in conversation but see every interaction as an opportunity to take something of value and add it to your ‘rolodex of knowledge’.
Writing stories in your head benefits absolutely no one.
Many of us are guilty of this one. It could be based purely on the fact that you have a feeling. I once heard someone say that if someone didn’t like her post on social media that she thought the person must be mad at her. Completely absurd, but I do get it. We like to imagine that we know what people are thinking. We also like to make things that have absolutely nothing to do with us, about us. Here I say, let it go. Until someone verbally engages you in a conversation that confirms that something is wrong, drop it.
What are some of the lessons you’ve learned from someone you know? You never know who else it might speak to and how it could impact someone’s life. Share in the comments!